In our recent four-week "UNCENSORED" series at Journey Church, we invited folks to submit questions on marriage, sex, purity and relationships.
Below is one of those questions ...
Q: We're married but no longer in love. What now?
A: Wow. I can almost feel your pain as I read that - just short and sweet - and tough. But before you go down a road that could be equally painful, let me ask you to stop for a moment.
If God commands us to love our enemies, can you love a spouse who is no longer very 'lovely?' I understand that you can no longer muster the good feelings that once used to accompany the relationship. I get that things have happened that make that long ago feeling impossible now ... but is your covenant good only until one of you falls out of love? I hope it isn't.
Nobody stands at an altar and says the words, "For richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, for better or for worse," and thinks for a moment that they'll have the poor finance part - or the bad health part - or the 'worse' part. But sometimes it happens.
We do not leave the covenant when the vows we've stated begin to be challenged. The covenant is continual.
It isn't love that sustains your marriage; it's your marriage that sustains love. And when you love your spouse out of sheer obedience to Christ - and when you pray for them - God helps love grow and He restores what has been lost.
I'm praying for you.
And be blessed.
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